Setting Up Friends on VRChat when you’re in the same room.

If you’re in the same room as your friend then the process will be super fast. First, you want to open up the Quick Menu or the ESC on your desktop. Then point the selection laser onto your friend and give them a click. An option will come up that asks if you want to send that user a friend request. When you see it click “Send Friend Request” and your part of this process is done. Easy! Your friend will have a notification come up on their screen saying you’re trying to connect. They have to agree to be friends, and once that’s done you’ll be able to see your buddy on your social menu.

Setting Up Friends on VRChat when you are not in the same room.

If you’re not in the same room as your friend, then the process is different but not harder. Instead of pointing at them with the laser, you need to search for them. Open up your quick menu, or the ESC, and click on social. You’ll notice in the top right hand corner that there is a search bar. Click on this search bar. If you haven’t asked for your friends’ username you should ask now, because you’ll need to type it into the search bar. When you have entered in their name, press OK. Your friend should come up as the top result, or they might be a little further down if you’ve typed in the name incorrectly. When you’ve found your buddy, click on them. You’ll be given the option to send a friend request which is exactly what you need to do. Once your friend has accepted this request, they will appear on your social menu!

How To Accept Or Send Friend Request From VRChat Home

This is the third option to get your friends involved in your chat rooms. You can accept friend requests here, but you can also send your friends’ friend requests by sharing a link. To do this you should go to your profile. To find your profile, sign in to your VRChat Home and click on your avatar which should be on the top left hand side. This will take you to your own profile. Then you should click on the URL at the top of the page. Your URL is the webpage for your profile and it is at the very top of the desktop view. Highlight the URL and send it to your friends. When your friends receive the URL, they can click on it. They will be sent to your profile where they send a friend request. Keeping your room private Keeping your room private and only allowing the people you know to join you, is the best way to ensure your safety. That being said, there are other ways to meet up with people on VRChat. If you use non-private instances like the “Friends” option, “Friends+” option, or the “Public” option, then you don’t necessarily need to jump through all these hoops to allow your friends to hang out with you. Allowing these types of instances has become very popular recently because it is a great way to hang out, be social, and meet new people. But sometimes you only want to hang out with a smaller group of friends and people on the internet are not always who they say they are. If you want to avoid trolls, stay away from anxious settings, and simply chill out with the people you already know you like, then stay in the private rooms. If you’re not sure what each of these instances are, then go to the VRChat Menu and scroll down to the “New Instances” selection. Each instance has an easy to read description to help you understand what you are using and creating. If you do choose to create a public instance then be prepared! I’m warning you now that the experience can get hectic and you might not be able to control the environment. If you’re new to chat rooms then I strongly recommend that you stick to the private instances so you can understand how everything works and how you want to use the functions. Meet up with your friends and hang out with the people who you know will respect the hangout zone you’ve created.

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How To Add Friends On VRChat

Q: How To Add Friends On VRChat

There are ways to open up your VRChat to the public but if you’re new to VRChat or a younger person then I recommend keeping your instances locked on private. This is for your safety and to keep the chat between friends! Adding friends isn’t meant to be a deterrent, and in fact, it’s a super easy thing to do! We recommend it so you can chat online and not worry about who you are talking to.

Here is everything you need to know about adding your friend on VRChat, and staying connected to them online.

Andrew Kirkcaldy

Last Updated on May 18, 2023

Reviewed By: Kevin Pocock

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Andrew Kirkcaldy

Andrew is one of three co-founders of BGFG, the parent company of PC Guide. A keen gamer and PC enthusiast, Andrew dabbles in a bit of writing sometimes - when he gets the chance to!